10 Tips to help you succeed in life, love, and everything
So you want to reach that highest height? I’ve got some tips for you… Ok, they’re not really my tips, but they’re my favourite from a very good collection. Daniel Coyle has done a lot of research in to what makes people good at things. He’s observed a lot of talented people at their best and worst and he’s figured out some of the dynamics. Better still, he’s shared them with us in a little book called The Little Book of Talents, 52 Tips for Improving Skills. Before I give you my picks, something to remember: “Small actions, repeated over time, transform us.” Something that always astounds me is how much people (myself included) constantly overestimate how much they can get done in the short term, but more importantly, how much they underestimate how much they can accomplish in the medium and long term. Small actions, repeated over time, transform us. The first and best tip – don’t forget that!
- Tip number 11 – Don’t believe the prodigy myth. We look at stars. We see their success and we assume that it came easy, that they never made mistakes, or hit hard patches. If you don’t see success early, don’t quit. Treat your efforts as experiments, not verdicts and keep trying.
- Tip number 13 – Find the sweet spot. You learn when you’re challenged enough but not too much. Research suggests this is at a place where you’re struggling, but alert to your errors, a place where your percentage of successful attempts is 50-80% Bet that’s lower than you thought!
- Tip number 16 – Each day try and build one perfect chunk. Practice isn’t enough, you have to make progress. Remember the overarching principle and seek out the small improvement everyday. Don’t go for the big one you can’t quite reach. Go for the biggest improvement you can still accomplish and build on it everyday.
- Tip number 18 – Choose 5 minutes a day over an hour a week. With deep concentrated practice, little and often is the real key. Cramming forces your brain to play catch up, while daily practice solidifies the neural pathways crucial for improvement. But you can’t be sloppy about it. The key is total focus, noticing and immediately fixing every mistake.
- Tip number 22 – Pay attention immediately after you make a mistake. Make a mistake and the instinct is to hide or brush over it. But if you want to succeed, then that instinct needs to change. Mistakes have huge power to teach us. Feedback is very valuable and the more immediate the better.
- Tip number 32 – Make positive reaches. Life always works better if you reach for what you want to accomplish, rather than what you’re desperate to avoid.
- Tip number 37- Use the REPS practice method. That’s Reach & repeat Engagement Purposefulness and Strong & speedy feedback.
- Tip 46- Don’t waste time trying to break bad habits. Instead build new ones. Start slowly; expect to feel clumsy and stupid, but it will get better. And the new habits will eventually overwrite the old circuitry.
- Tip 41- End on a positive note. Did you know that doctors often prolong colonoscopies so as to end on a good note. And though it makes the procedure, and hence the discomfort, last longer, it does make for happier patients. End your practice on a good note and you’ll be more likely do want to do it again tomorrow.
- Tip 38 – Stop before you’re exhausted. Exhaustion in the enemy of learning – it slows the brain, triggers errors, and encourages shortcuts that lead to the creation of bad habits. Exhausted practice can be worse than no practice at all. And so one final and related tip NAP. Your brain needs sleep to consolidate learning and to keep you concentrated during your practice sessions. Practice and work hard, but don’t forget to rest.
So, what are your favourite tips for success? Leave a comment and start the conversation =)